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My daughter and her doll
with matching dresses |
My mother should have been turning 75 tomorrow. I say “should have” because when she died at 60 – after a decade long battle with cancer – she wasn’t done living, and we weren’t ready to let go. I wasn’t sure I’d write about her again this year –
since one of my first posts was on her birthday last year – but then I realized that she is still with me (every day) and teaching me things, even in her absence.
My mom loved to sew – she made gorgeous things – clothing, quilts, table linens…and I have her sewing machines. I used them a lot when my daughter was young – I made clothes for her – and matching outfits for her dolls. As my daughter got older, and we got busier – I sewed less – always presuming I would return to it when I had more time…
Instead, I found myself drawn to making jewelry, but over the past few months I have realized how many of the things my mother taught me about sewing have helped me in my fledgling metalsmith work.
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lapis pendant sketch |
When you set out to make a garment, there is a specific order for doing things – you choose fabric and a pattern; then you layout the pattern on the fabric and cut; maximizing space and minimizing waste. Once cut, you mark the pieces so that they align properly and begin assembling them in order.
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pendant parts |
While working on my first original piece- this lapis pendant – I realized that while the fabrication methods are different, the need for an understanding of the steps is very much the same. You want to have a clear vision for the design, minimize waste (silver is expensive), and a plan for assembling the parts.
I was sitting at the bench, having sawed out all my pieces and was
filing the edges when this realization struck me – and for one split
second – it was like Mom was right next to me, just like when she first taught me to sew.
I’ve had moments where I wonder if Mom would be disappointed that I’m not sewing and using her machines – but I don’t think that would be the case.

My mom always pushed me to be my own person, to do things that felt right for me – and not give those things up under pressure from other people. I think she would be pleased that I am making jewelry – because she was a fan of jewelry, too – and because creating beautiful things makes me happy. I only wish that she were still here – so that I could create things for her with the same love that she sewed into every stitch for me.
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finished pendant
and a pair of Mom's earrings |
Until next time.
She drew paper doll clothes when we were about 7 years old that rivaled anything you see on a red carpet in Hollywood. Wish I had them on paper instead of in my head & heart! Love, Doris
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